Life is stressful. Work can be challenging. Kids can be overwhelming, and it's easy to feel like things could be better if only we had a more money, a better job, a bigger house. And while those pipe dreams might have nothing to do with your husband, that "grass is always greener" mentality may actually be putting a strain on your relationship.
"When we are focused on the disappointments, which inevitably occur in our lives, rather than the good stuff, it becomes a downward spiral," Weks told me. "When a man is making efforts and they are not recognized, he feels like he can never please you no matter what he does. If this is the case, he will eventually stop trying."
So next time you feel like complaining to your hubby about all the things you wish you had, take a moment to chat about all the wonderful things you've already accomplished together as a couple, instead.
