This method is also not working if after you've agreed on no contact you're still putting your life on pause. If you've been wallowing in the past and not participating in fun activities, something needs to change. "Being productive and structured gives you a sense of consistency and safety after having the upheaval of the breakup," relationship expert Lisa Concepcion told Bustle. "Think about it, people break up and after feeling blah for a few weeks, something kicks in where they want to be productive." So use this time to create a new healthy routine, go out with friends, or pick up a new hobby. It's important to remember what life was like before you met your ex.
After getting back into a normal and fulfilling schedule it can be easy to think you're completely over something and fall back into bad habits. It's kind of like being on a diet for 30 days and deciding to eat junk food again. You likely won't keep those pounds off and end up right back where you started. It's a slippery slope. Resist that urge to call, text, or message until the urge no longer remains.
Remember that ultimately things will get easier with time — just be patient and let yourself heal.
