When you're flirting with someone, you might not give a lot of thought to your specific body language, but it's different when you're flirting than it is other times. David Givens, an anthropologist, director of the Center for Nonverbal Studies, and the author of Love Signals: A Practical Field Guide to the Body Language of Courtship, told Fusion that when people are flirting with one another, they start to mirror each other's actions "because safe is same and same is safe."
If you touch your ear, you might notice that they also touch their ear. If you reach for your drink or a snack on the table, you might see them do the same. You might also talk more with your palms up, which makes the other person feel at-ease. It's an "I come in peace" kind of gesture. Feeling like you are both similar and on the same page can help you feel a bit more at ease in a situation that can make many people feel a little bit nervous.
