Licensed marriage and relationship and family therapist Mudita Rastogi, Ph.D., spoke with Psych Central about handling this secret. According to her, you need to listen intently and hear their point of view. People cheat for various reasons, including lack of sex, self-esteem issues, and the absence of commitment. Therefore, letting your friend explain their reasoning before passing any judgment is crucial. After hearing your friend out, you can then voice your views. Rastogi suggests refraining from sounding too critical. Remember that you are also human and capable of similar behavior.
"Friends are supposed to act as ethical lighthouses for each other, so it is okay to state your views about infidelity if asked, without sounding judgmental, and without condoning their actions," Rastogi explained.
Even after you've voiced your beliefs, end it by asking them how they are feeling. This lets them know that you are still concerned about their well-being. You also want to convey that you are not angry with them for their indiscretions. Ultimately, you are meant to be a confidante during their vulnerable moment.
